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Love, What is

看到少年(本来写小青年,后来觉得小青年应该是我这个年龄的人,他还比我小)在FB写“真爱”的定义。简单来说,这个“真爱”的定义是一种萦绕不去的迷恋、眷恋,即使分离了以后还是魂萦梦牵到长久。

然而我无法同意。

迷恋的感觉是真实的没错,然而并不可靠。我可以迷恋你两年,然而两年以后,当我更加认识你,知道你的一切软弱之处,知道你并非完美,也发现你的不可爱之处,也不再对你有炽热的‘心跳’感觉,我就是失去了这种迷恋了。若所谓的爱建立在这种表面的情感上,该是多么的薄弱而不堪一击。

真爱是什么……?

以后,当我不再迷恋你,我要更加地爱你。

在你使我生气时给你一杯水,在你生病时照顾你,在你脆弱时支持你;
在你犯错时规劝你,有必要时还要责备你,最后还是要原谅你;
在你做得好时起立鼓掌,不是很好时也要认可你;
在你心情不好时忍耐,甚至包容;
在你老了以后开始唠唠叨叨时听你唠叨;
在你走不太好时搀着你一起走(虽然我自己也可能需要别人搀着走);
在你病痛中许多恶心的症状(鼻涕、脓水、污血、粪便……)继续照料你(当然我也希望我们的孩子是能照顾我们的孝顺儿女);
在金钱的考验、世俗的诱惑、外在内心的攻击中、平淡单调的生活中、无论环境如何,都要守着你,爱护你。

如果对你不再有激情,如果被别人吸引,
我还是要守着你,爱着你,并把别人给忘记。

因为真爱不是保证一辈子激情,而是一辈子相知、相惜、相守、相爱。

哥林多前书13:4-8a

爱 是 恒 久 忍 耐 , 又 有 恩 慈 ; 爱 是 不 嫉 妒 ; 爱 是 不 自 夸 , 不 张 狂 , 不 做 害 羞 的 事 , 不 求 自 己 的 益 处 , 不 轻 易 发 怒 , 不 计 算 人 的 恶 ,不 喜 欢 不 义 , 只 喜 欢 真 理 ;凡 事 包 容 , 凡 事 相 信 , 凡 事 盼 望 , 凡 事 忍 耐 。

爱 是 永 不 止 息 。

 
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Posted by on September 11, 2010 in Christ is Lord!, Love, Musings, Relationships, Spiritual Growth

 

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Ganbatte yo koi

When there are no news from you for 3 days, I got worried. Was initially depressed, then I was reminded of all the previous circumstances when there was no word from you. You were always either too tired or down when something like that happens. I told Mum that I was worried – more worried than I’m sad about not hearing anything from you. Did something happen to you? Are you ill? Are you terribly sad? Mum told me not to worry unnecessarily.

So this stint is more difficult than we both thought it would be… keep pressing on, my dear. Our Lord will sustain you through the difficulties and strengthen you in all ways.

Houseman-ship is not just a test for you, I guess. It tests our relationship and our trust in the Lord and each other. I often remind myself: we have waited for each other for 4 years before this, what is this 1 year?

把我的每一份深深的思念,化为一个个紧紧的拥抱,乘着切切的祷告,来到你的身边。

Psalm 18
1 I love you, O LORD, my strength.

2 The LORD is my rock, my fortress and my deliverer;
my God is my rock, in whom I take refuge.
He is my shield and the horn of my salvation, my stronghold.

3 I call to the LORD, who is worthy of praise,
and I am saved from my enemies.

4 The cords of death entangled me;
the torrents of destruction overwhelmed me.

5 The cords of the grave coiled around me;
the snares of death confronted me.

6 In my distress I called to the LORD;
I cried to my God for help.
From his temple he heard my voice;
my cry came before him, into his ears.

24 The LORD has rewarded me according to my righteousness,
according to the cleanness of my hands in his sight.

25 To the faithful you show yourself faithful,
to the blameless you show yourself blameless,

26 to the pure you show yourself pure,
but to the crooked you show yourself shrewd.

27 You save the humble
but bring low those whose eyes are haughty.

28 You, O LORD, keep my lamp burning;
my God turns my darkness into light.

29 With your help I can advance against a troop [d] ;
with my God I can scale a wall.

30 As for God, his way is perfect;
the word of the LORD is flawless.
He is a shield
for all who take refuge in him.

31 For who is God besides the LORD ?
And who is the Rock except our God?

32 It is God who arms me with strength
and makes my way perfect.

33 He makes my feet like the feet of a deer;
he enables me to stand on the heights.

34 He trains my hands for battle;
my arms can bend a bow of bronze.

35 You give me your shield of victory,
and your right hand sustains me;
you stoop down to make me great.

36 You broaden the path beneath me,
so that my ankles do not turn.

46 The LORD lives! Praise be to my Rock!
Exalted be God my Savior!

47 He is the God who avenges me,
who subdues nations under me,

48 who saves me from my enemies.
You exalted me above my foes;
from violent men you rescued me.

49 Therefore I will praise you among the nations, O LORD;
I will sing praises to your name.

50 He gives his king great victories;
he shows unfailing kindness to his anointed,
to David and his descendants forever.

 
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Posted by on September 3, 2010 in Christ is Lord!, Encouragement, Love, Musings

 

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Anniversary (Kinki Kids)

I got to know this song after hearing Kamenashi from KAT-TUN singing it a cappella. I adored Kinki Kids’ cover of this song. There is a cover by the original song writer 織田哲郎. It’s nice, of course, though I’m more attached somehow to Kinki Kids’ version.

LINK: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jMA9D1kYXyA

Translation:
(source: http://www.kiwi-musume.com/lyrics/kinkikids/halbum/anniversary.html)
There are as many people as there are stars
And one day, by chance, out of all those people, I met you and fell in love

Even if someone had told me that love is pain
I would still have chosen you without hesitation

In this sky, countless stars are born
And die without anyone knowing it

Those words, “I love you”
How much better I would have felt if I’d just come out and said them
I never want to make you cry again
So today, this random day, is our anniversary

It’s kind of mysterious – you like me too
I don’t know why…is that why?

We have different hobbies and mannerisms
But lately we’ve become alike…that’s what everyone says
That day when I told a lie and made you cry
I just kept quiet, unable to do anything

Just having you here brings vivid colours
To these ordinary days, and fills me with love
I don’t want to forget this feeling
So today, this random day, is our anniversary

Those words, “I love you”
How much better I would have felt if I’d just come out and said them
I never want to make you cry again
So today, this random day, is our anniversary

 
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Posted by on August 25, 2010 in Good stuff

 

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My love far far away

My Chua is away on holiday in Thailand~
I miss him profusely.
Apparently we are going to date when he comes back.
Thursday come sooooon.

You know this funny thing about myself and my dear. We only meet each other occasionally, so I see him a little differently each time. It’s like “ooh he looks like he lost some weight”, or “my, this guy looks good” or some other random thoughts. Our dates still feel like first dates – trepidation, anticipation, fresh perspectives, new stories, and the list goes on. Yet, we talk easily and endlessly. (So those would be “first dates” without the awkwardness?)

We personify “Absence makes the heart fonder”, I should think.

I love love love my man, and he loves me too. How awesome does this get?

 
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Posted by on August 22, 2010 in Love

 

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要珍惜

这样一份爱情实在不容易
可以从和彼此相处的时间里得到更多的力量

一天的疲惫尽头
你在那儿
温柔而坚定地牵起我的手
因为有你在身边
便觉得增添了许多新的勇气与鼓励

好爱你

 
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Posted by on July 4, 2010 in Love

 

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投稿《广角》

陌上花开

我亲爱的你:

那天我在某篇热门网络小说中读到男主角写给女主角的一句话:陌上花开,可缓缓归矣。女主角柔肠百转,感动得一塌糊涂。我不得不去谷歌一下‘陌上花开’,接着就发现了如下的一段文字:

传说,吴越王妃戴氏,是个孝顺女子,每年寒食节必回临安郎碧娘家省亲。一年春天至春色将老,陌上花已发,王妃还没有回来。钱鏐抑制不住内心的思念即修书一封曰:“陌上花开,可缓缓归矣”。欲催归而请缓,念人而转惜花,虽婉约却实大气!这个当年曾命三千铁弩射回八月钱塘江潮的一世之雄是何等的霸气,待到他因思念爱人而写下最美的信札时后人又见其千转柔肠。

那时,心里荡起一圈又一圈暖暖的涟漪。“田间阡陌上的花发了,你可以慢慢看花,不必急着回来。”豪情万千的英雄君王,竟有如此细腻的爱情。欲催归而请缓——娘子啊,你慢慢看花,慢慢回来吧。我想你了,又怕你赶回来累坏身体——所以,你慢慢看花,回来吧。咀嚼着千古芳香的文字,体贴文字中细水长流的爱情:如此体贴、如此思念、如此温柔。

能感动落在爱情中的女子,不过也就是让她知道你也如此思念着她吧?因为在爱情中,总有不安心,总有牵挂,总有猜想。特别是当恋人因为忙碌而无法经常见面、通电传情的时候,心中总有许多的问题与忧虑。有时觉得,是否是因为我爱你比较多,所以我经常思念你,经常主动联系你呢?是否你的沉默,代表着你爱得少?

然而转念一想:我又如何知道你是否也是如此思念我呢?谁能说,谁爱得多,谁爱得少?也许我情绪奔放激烈,我觉得自己爱得炽热;也许你深沉含蓄,也不表达太多。爱得炽热的人,有时反而是爱情跃动不安、不坚定的那个;爱得深沉的人,反而是默默守候、细水长流的那个。你,和我,已经走过了漫长而磨人的时光,因为爱我们的上帝的保守,使我们愿意,也能够彼此相爱。那么,我为什么还在怀疑你的爱?我怎么就记不得你的爱?

若我能选择,当然是希望能天天和你在一起,继续聊着我们永远聊不完的话,握着你的手感受你手心的温度。虽然现实决定了我们无法如此朝夕相对,但是爱情不会就此停下。因为爱情不只是关乎自己的感受,更是关乎我们能否一起成长,圣洁、诚实、真诚地关怀我爱的你、你爱的我。

能这样决定等候你,用耐心来陪伴你,我觉得于我来说是不容易的。世界告诉我:男人若是真的喜欢你,再忙他也会联络你。还有许许多多的信息,不断地打造所谓“完美男友”的形象,使我们这些爱上了某人的小女子不由得萌生许多幻想与期待,并因为现实而觉得失望。现实中,你不会轻易把爱说出口,你也无法接我上下课,你也无法每天打电话给我道晚安。然而因为这样,我就能说你不爱我吗?

爱我们的上帝告诉我们:爱是恒久忍耐,又有恩慈。透过上帝的爱,我发现爱着一个人,不是每天甜言蜜语、山盟海誓,不是两人紧连着不分开、彼此消磨时间。当你尽着你的力量争取和我在一起的时间,又时时对于无法给我更多的时间而歉疚;当你坚定地牵起我的手,和我一起数算我们的未来;当我们已经不再为彼此的忙碌而介怀,而是更加珍惜和彼此在一起的时间,珍重地谈着对我们来说重要的事;或在说不完的话语中,或在彼此相拥的宁静中……我们发现,原来爱我们的上帝已经带领我们在这几年的时间里面,因为深刻地彼此认识、诚心地彼此原谅包容,从而衍生两人之间的默契。原来“心灵相通”不是两个人在电光火石之间一拍即合,而是如同溪水流过粗糙的石上,温柔地、忍耐地、长久地磨砺出光润的卵石来。

我亲爱的你,我们无需张扬,也无需焦躁,且缓缓前行吧。毕竟我们的路还很长,我们的爱还在静静的流动着。

你所爱着的我

 
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Posted by on June 29, 2010 in Christ is Lord!, Love, Musings

 

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Head over heels

I can’t believe that this wonderful man is mine :)

I adore our endless conversations, the tranquil moments when we simply bask in each other’s presence, the silly funny things he does like sleep-talking while sitting upright in a bus (XD so cute ♥), dreaming about the future and talking about the things we plan to do.

Very much blessed…

And the most beautiful thing about it all is that we know deep in our hearts that we would not have been possible without the love of the Lord working in our hearts… knowing that the Lord is behind us and our relationship is the most comforting and secure feeling ever.

 
 

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被冷落了的博客妹妹

对不起啊妹妹~ 冷落了妳这么久~
不是妳老姐不喜欢妳,而是因为妳老姐最近太懒惰了~
不是妳老姐没想法,而是妳老姐懒得把它们都记录下来
(而且好像也不是什么新的想法,基本上就是那些母语教育社会公益男女关系恋爱很幸福之类的东西)

妳姐夫工作很辛苦,妳就姑且帮老姐记下一些心情吧。

虽然我们没时间在一起,尽管想念,我也没有不高兴的地方。
工作是好的!我完全支持。
看着自己的男人做着服务大众、安慰病人的事,是一种自豪。
不是因为妳姐夫是所谓的“医生”让人羡慕,
而是因为他热爱着自己的工作,诚心诚意、兢兢业业、认认真真地照顾他的病人,并不计较自己被超时劳作的辛苦。
姐相信妳姐夫会成为一个很好的医生的!

以前夸下豪言壮语,认定自己不会嫁给医生,因为医生没时间陪老婆。
现在我要说,我愿意做医生背后那个照顾他、支持他的女人。
夫妻哪能时时刻刻在一起呢?
嫁给一个终日闲荡、浪费时间和自己的女人腻在一起的男人,
远远不如嫁一个时间虽少,但珍惜和自己在一起的每一刻,诚心对待自己事业的男人。

虽然妳姐夫那么忙,应该没时间看到这个,但妳就帮姐记一下:
姐姐很爱姐夫呢!
觉得妳姐夫是个好男人,并且为他和他所做的事感到骄傲~
妳也帮姐夫加油一下!

 
 

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好像很久没写过东西了

倒不是因为很忙,只是因为没什么写东西的欲望。
所以说,人很顺利的时候是没什么文思的。
(不过我不会因为没有文思而希望自己不顺利啦(笑))

今天又想我的聪了,虽然这句话写得有点废(我什么时候不想他了)。
刚才想到自己在n年前(中学时)曾用过一个网名“EC”,
因为实在太雷人了,我都不好意思写EC代表什么。
但今天一想起来,就恍然大悟:
难道……
这是冥冥中注定的……
我要谈恋爱的人是……
Eugene Chua?
:D :D :D

等有想法了再写东西吧~

悄~

 
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Posted by on May 5, 2010 in Mundanity, Musings, Uncategorized

 

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Posted by on April 30, 2010 in Love, Uncategorized

 

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