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Love, What is

看到少年(本来写小青年,后来觉得小青年应该是我这个年龄的人,他还比我小)在FB写“真爱”的定义。简单来说,这个“真爱”的定义是一种萦绕不去的迷恋、眷恋,即使分离了以后还是魂萦梦牵到长久。

然而我无法同意。

迷恋的感觉是真实的没错,然而并不可靠。我可以迷恋你两年,然而两年以后,当我更加认识你,知道你的一切软弱之处,知道你并非完美,也发现你的不可爱之处,也不再对你有炽热的‘心跳’感觉,我就是失去了这种迷恋了。若所谓的爱建立在这种表面的情感上,该是多么的薄弱而不堪一击。

真爱是什么……?

以后,当我不再迷恋你,我要更加地爱你。

在你使我生气时给你一杯水,在你生病时照顾你,在你脆弱时支持你;
在你犯错时规劝你,有必要时还要责备你,最后还是要原谅你;
在你做得好时起立鼓掌,不是很好时也要认可你;
在你心情不好时忍耐,甚至包容;
在你老了以后开始唠唠叨叨时听你唠叨;
在你走不太好时搀着你一起走(虽然我自己也可能需要别人搀着走);
在你病痛中许多恶心的症状(鼻涕、脓水、污血、粪便……)继续照料你(当然我也希望我们的孩子是能照顾我们的孝顺儿女);
在金钱的考验、世俗的诱惑、外在内心的攻击中、平淡单调的生活中、无论环境如何,都要守着你,爱护你。

如果对你不再有激情,如果被别人吸引,
我还是要守着你,爱着你,并把别人给忘记。

因为真爱不是保证一辈子激情,而是一辈子相知、相惜、相守、相爱。

哥林多前书13:4-8a

爱 是 恒 久 忍 耐 , 又 有 恩 慈 ; 爱 是 不 嫉 妒 ; 爱 是 不 自 夸 , 不 张 狂 , 不 做 害 羞 的 事 , 不 求 自 己 的 益 处 , 不 轻 易 发 怒 , 不 计 算 人 的 恶 ,不 喜 欢 不 义 , 只 喜 欢 真 理 ;凡 事 包 容 , 凡 事 相 信 , 凡 事 盼 望 , 凡 事 忍 耐 。

爱 是 永 不 止 息 。

 
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Posted by on September 11, 2010 in Christ is Lord!, Love, Musings, Relationships, Spiritual Growth

 

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老师说,放假不要只做功课……

……也要休息~

老师真好:))

刚才和我的宝贝通过电话,虽然耳朵压在听筒上都疼了,但还是觉得很开心~

听了传道讲的《基督徒的爱情观》,虽然听过类似的讲道很多次了,但这次还是很有感觉。觉得好开心啊,没有走错道路、乱做选择。我们按着神的引导,慎重经过祷告后在一起,有家人朋友们的祝福(真的有很多人告诉我:“很高兴看到你们在一起!”)……真的觉得,我们没有做错选择。两人能同心,可以选择同行,我想,这就是幸福吧?

 
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Posted by on February 11, 2010 in Give thanks, Love

 

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与罪隔绝

要亲近神的人,就断不能再犯罪。因为犯罪了的心思意念,无法单纯地来到主面前。若是犯了罪不悔改、不与人和睦,就连赞美主时,赞美主的话语都会成为指控良心的话语。

A man who wishes to draw closer to the Lord must never sin again. A mind which has sinned cannot come before the Lord blameless. If one does not repent nor make peace with others before they worship the Lord, even words of praise to the Lord become accusations of the conscience.

 
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Posted by on February 1, 2010 in Christ is Lord!, Spiritual Growth

 

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We love because He loves us!

It has been a very richly blessed day today. I’m greatly thankful to God for blessing us with this wonderful church community where we honestly and openly love each other. I am personally blessed with loving brothers and sisters who are both kind and wise in their company. Every time I think of the idea that we will be a group to grow old together, I feel filled with joy and anticipation for the future~

 
 

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浸泡在幸福中的女孩

如同朝露中的小草  蓝天中的小鸟

我整颗心被幸福围绕

哦我慈爱的天父  认识你真好

你赐的福分别处找不着

最近,想想后,觉得自己是个很幸福的人,有父母、奶奶疼,有教会一大票弟兄姐妹疼,有自己爱的男人疼,还有很温暖的中文系老师同学们。

这样的人生,实在不能抱怨什么。(要抱怨的话,就真的要抓去打八十大板了。)

感谢天父让我在祂的爱中长大,过着越来越幸福喜乐的日子。

感谢祂赐生命中的风风雨雨,让我懂得珍惜今日的阳光和煦。

感谢祂带我度过孤独的童年,让我懂得珍惜成长后的亲人朋友。

感谢祂带领我平安经过精神贫乏的少年时期,让我懂得珍惜如今富足喜乐的心境。

我们爱,因神先爱我们……

 

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500th post: 2010

500th post is made on 2010.01.01!

Countdown at SACM was quite different this year. We got to stay overnight in church and saw the Marina Bay fireworks from the south lawn. Starting the year with praise and worship in the morning was special – it consistently reminded me of how the Lord has made everything new.

Most of our youths didn’t sleep, as usual. (Even if they wanted to, there isn’t anywhere in church that is sleep-conducive.) Many of the older youths (yours truly included) slept in the basement classrooms and thus got at least a few hours of uncomfortable, yet precious sleep. At least we weren’t completely brain-dead like many of those who didn’t sleep.

I let the youths know that we have praise and worship 8.30am in the morning – so they can decide whether they are going to catch some sleep or pull out through till 10am. They also know that we have to restore the place to its original look the next morning. So the onus is on them to decide what they want to do – I told the committee that I don’t wish to run this event like an army camp with somebody to “enforce” rules. It is a fun event and people should be responsible for their own decisions.

Previously I wrote some thoughts on the only unhappy episode of the event, then I decided to take it out. Instead, I want to give thanks for the brothers and sisters who helped in the clean-up. It was during an unscheduled window of time in the morning and I thought I should just start doing some rearranging, to minimize the work that we have to do after worship. Eventually more people came and helped, many sleepy and brain-dead, but nevertheless helped to restore the various venues to their original look. I was pretty amazed when everything was in order before worship even started – I thought, Wow, it was like we were never here! Encouraged by that, it took most of my mind off the little unhappy incident earlier on in the morning.

Uncle Michael (duty verger) was very happy and he said it was to my credit that it’s so tidy, but I told him, no, people just started packing up – we planned to do clean-up only after worship, but apparently it’s all done early and nice. Even if I had the heart, it takes the efforts and love of everyone else to have done it all so quickly. It’s already difficult for our vergers to have stayed overnight for us and it would be downright unloving if we left the place in a mess for them to clear. I like seeing our vergers happy. It means we have done our best in loving them.

(After I had gotten to know the vergers, their names and even talked to some of them at length, I feel a personal closeness and responsibility towards them and respect for their jobs. They worked on low pay, long hours, dealing with black sheep members of the church who made trouble for them, simply because they loved the Lord and the church. They have to be fierce sometimes, but it’s all part of the job. Beneath their gruffness they are very nice men. So now when they complain to me about how people under my charge are using the place, I don’t feel irritated like some others thinking that they are giving us trouble and making fusses, but rather some form of empathy and understanding because I know how difficult their positions are. )

This new year, I recommit myself to Youth Fellowship and CVCF service, my school work, my volunteer work and family life. May the Lord continue to use me through doing His work and simply being a living testimony for Christ in how I live my life. May He bless us with the wisdom to live a life full of Christ-like wisdom.

 

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Blessings

I think such busy-ness is good because under such stress, a lot of love become apparent to me. I can really see how many sweet people there are around me and how much they love me.

My dear’s unexpected little gift… to have kind brothers and sisters see me home… coming home late at night from a meeting, to see the kitchen light left on for me… Mum’s cooling teas…nagging to eat fruits… random funny jokes from brothers and sisters… various notes dropped in on Facebook…

It’s all very beautiful and precious to me :)

 
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Posted by on December 16, 2009 in Encouragement, Give thanks, Joy, Love, Relationships

 

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Just a while

Before I go back to catch sleep for the long rehearsal day ahead…

Was telling Mum this morning that whenever I look at teenagers nowadays and feel irritated, I would stop to consider what I was like when I was 16 and younger. Then I will remind myself to give those kids more time.

Remembering my awkward and embarrassing teenage-hood filled with angst and ridiculousness is difficult. I try not to think about those times and if I do, I give thanks that I got to know the Lord at the absolute low of my growing years. So yes, I have sympathy for teenage angst and awkwardness, I can understand that kids this age need to be gently and firmly reminded of responsibility and yet respected like adults and treated like friends.

Growing up is difficult, like the metamorphosis of a caterpillar into a butterfly. Notice how the little creature has to struggle and struggle to squeeze itself out of the cocoon. Even right after it comes out, its wings are crumpled, pale and weak. Then it stands in the sun and spreads itself – behold, a beautiful butterfly.

So yes, just a little while more.

 
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Posted by on December 14, 2009 in Musings, Relationships

 

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也许可以很久很久

《陪我看日出》 蔡淳佳

雨的气息,是回家的小路。
路上有我,追着你的脚步。
旧相片保存着昨天的温度。
你抱着我,就像温暖的大树。
雨下了走好路,这句话我记住。
风再大,吹不 走嘱咐。
雨过了就有路,像那年看日出。
你牵着我,穿过了雾,
教我看希望就在黑夜的尽处。

哭过的眼,看岁月更清楚。
想一个人,闪着泪光,是一种幸福。
又回到我离开家的下午。
你送着我,满天叶子都在飞舞。
雨下了走好路,这句话我记住。
风再大,吹不 走嘱咐。
雨过了就有路,像那年看日出。
你牵着我,穿过了雾,
教我看希望就在黑夜的尽处。

虽然一个人,我并不孤独。
在心中你陪我看每一个日出

虽然当时蔡淳佳出唱片时,这首歌在电视上重复播得快烂了,这首歌的曲调(日本歌曲《泪光闪闪》)和歌词(梁文福作)还是很美的。

今天在奶奶的生日会上,家人唱起了这首歌(叔叔还唱了日文版,真厉害)。

脑海里浮现了我们牵着手,走过漫长道路的画面。满天叶子在飞舞,温暖的太阳从远处的地平线上升起。

 
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Posted by on December 13, 2009 in Love, Musings

 

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RARRGH

I’m caught between anger and praise for God, this is such a paradox. Firstly, I’m angry that somebody did something so horrible to a beloved sister of mine. But I praise God that it is because of this that she learned to trust in Him and saw the horrible person for who he really is. We really see how God has been working with us…

Rehearsals just get more and more mind-blowing, because everyone’s improving so tremendously that we don’t think it’s by human means. We were so encouraged and uplifted by how hard everyone’s working without complaints and really putting in their hearts and souls to depict their characters. WOW! May the Lord continue to enable us to do His work and that we will remember that it’s all for HIM and HIS GLORY!

 
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Posted by on December 3, 2009 in Encouragement, Give thanks, Joy, Prayers, Serving

 

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